I can imagine your facial expression when you read the caption of this blog. And I am ready to bet on some of your ideas when you attempted to figure out what eating naked has to do with creating a happy marriage…
Well, the good news is that eating naked DOES support your relationship– but not as literally as it may sound.
The above title was not created by me. I am not that creative. I heard this line in a different connotation used by my personal trainer. Let’s get a little personal here. Part of my life’s story involves the great challenge of being (according to my wife’s standard…) a little heavy. Hence, over the past few decades, I have been trying to lose weight.
As a matter of fact, I recently lost 50 pounds in six months. But like many other times when I lost something, I felt very excited and lucky when I FOUND it again… and in many cases, with interest!
Which is why this morning I was shocked when my personal trainer came to me and said; “If you truly want to lose weight, you should EAT NAKED!”
“Eat naked????” I responded, “I should do WHAT?”
“Yes,” he said, “You heard me just right. When you eat naked, you are able to SEE with your own eyes the damage you are creating, as you create it!”
It took me a few seconds before a big smile came to my face… “I got you!” I said.
When you are able to SEE clearly what you are creating, at the highest level of awareness, there is very small chance you will keep creating damage. The only reason you keep doing what doesn’t work for you, is simply because you choose not to SEE it…
I loved this idea! Being a relationship coach, my focus is on creating love, happiness, and connection between family and business members. Therefore, I think it’s only natural for me to adopt this holy concept.
If people were able to SEE with their own eyes the damage they create by a word, a facial expression, an irresponsible act, they might be more mindful. If we are able to SEE the pain we cause, the distance we source, the walls we build, then we probably would never do it. The only reason we act and react with total ignorance, is due to the choice we make not to SEE what our creations actually look like…
I remember this young man who came to me furious and angry. “What’s wrong,” I asked?
“Look,” he said, “I came back from work at 7pm last night and after such a long day at work I found absolutely NOTHING to eat… I don’t get it… I worked hard all day long and when I came back home nothing hot was there for me to eat…”
“And how did you react?” I asked this frustrated man.
“I made a scene to ensure my wife will never forget to cook for the rest of our life…”
“I am very happy for you,” I said sarcastically… “I am sure from now on, every day your wife will cook for you the best food in the world out of deep love, respect, and connection.”
“Love, respect, and connection,” he said… “I am not sure. But FOOD will be there!”
“Here is the deal my friend,” I replied, “When you come home and there is no hot meal on the table, you have one choice to make out of two possibilities. You can either make a scene to get a ‘hot meal’ and a ‘cold wife,’ or you can make something to eat for yourself and get ‘cold food’ but a ‘hot wife.’ You choose what price you are willing to pay for making a big deal out of a meal…”
My dear friends, it’s ok to want hot food. It’s ok to ask for it.
It’s not ok to worship your desire for hot food on the account of hurting your wife. You can’t be the victim of your own stomach. If we could only learn to “eat naked” and SEE what we create with our hurtful words, then we would know the deep damage and distance we create between our hearts and the world. And, we could also see there is another way.
Living life in relationship, from the real level of consciousness, makes us aware of the results we create through our actions and reactions. Vision gives us the power to pave a road of love, joy, and true connection.